In many traditions, November 1st is a time to remember those who have gone before us, our ancestors, our saints, our departed loved ones.  As this day approaches I am thinking about the people along my journey who have contributed to my survival, my healing and my thriving. 

There are teachers who reached out and encouraged me.  A band director who challenged me to play better and supported me throughout my schooling.  Music was a safe outlet for me and a place of accomplishment.  I remember my first male teacher, who in 6th grade especially guided us boys into the changes of adolescence.

Most importantly there is my wife who has stuck by me, encouraged me and supported me in spite of the many challenges, sorrows and struggles living with a survivor brings.

I am blessed with family members, my sons and daughters (-in law) my sisters who have stood by me and supported me.

In the last few years a circle of male friends, survivors like me, has grown and deepened.  They accept me as I am.  They understand the challenges of this healing journey and offer support.  I am able to do the same for them.

Who has helped you on your journey

This week I invite you to think of the people who are significant in your healing journey, alive or deceased. Feel free to tell us about them in the comments section.  Can you find a way to thank them?  Maybe a note, a phone call, a visit would work.  If they are no longer with us consider writing a letter to them in your journal.  Saying thank you is powerful.  Our expressions of gratitude will touch them and will lift us. 

As the circle of life and recovery turns we gain the opportunity to be such a person to others, a friend, a confidant, a companion along the healing journey.  It is one way we take the terrible things which happened to us and use them for good.  We become those who offer hope along the difficult way of surviving, recovering and thriving.

One of the goals of MenHealing is to connect men together to create a network of support and caring.  You can support this work by participating in the $90k in 90 Days campaign.   See the link below for more information.

As you think about all of this remember, we do not walk this healing journey alone. You are not alone.  There is a community of survivors waiting to welcome you in.  

Be well. Stay safe. Take good care.


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