You are not alone. One of the first steps in my healing journey was to learn there were others like me. I have come to believe that a critical part of healing is to be with others who are also survivors. I treasure the small group of men I am a part of who meets …
Live your life with arms wide open. Today is where your book begins. The rest is still unwritten. Natasha Bedingfield When I look back at my life I can see the many ways my childhood sexual abuse shaped me, my decisions, relationships and path in life. It can feel as if the abuse created a …
Arriving in my inbox this week was a music video about gratitude which invited me to be “grateful for it all. I believe that our healing does not end when we can manage our flashbacks, recover from our addictions and free ourselves from shame and secrets. All these are important steps in our journey to …
Fear is a presence after childhood sexual abuse. I feared I would expose myself. I needed to learn to live in the present.
Sometimes it is alright to be less than perfect, a good lesson about life and healing as a survivor of abuse.
How often do you feel bad about feeling bad? I know it can be a challenge for me. There is this voice in my head which tells me I should not feel bad, sad, depressed, upset… It is the critical voice which reminds me when I fail, questions my abilities and doubts my self worth. …
When We Were Wolves, by J.E. Tobin is a fictional account of a man coming to terms with his childhood sexual abuse by a beloved figure in his community. This is a story of healing and hope in the midst of the complexities and messiness of real life.
Written by Kevin Flood In today’s world stress is ever present and even if you are not a 24/7 news junkie, the stress comes at you constantly. The bigger our interest in the world the more opportunities there are for being exposed to stress in politics, oppression, war, money woes, hunger, layoffs, and many other …
What are you doing this summer to take care of yourself? What do you do for fun? Recently in a small survivors group discussion we tackled this question. Not as simple as I thought it would be. Just asking the question raised all sorts of other questions: Do I deserve to have fun? Is it …
During my almost 4 decades of living in Maine I’ve come to treasure summer. I’ve learned from neighbors and friends to make the most of this limited time as the cold dark days of winter are still a not-so-distant memory and certain to return before we are ready. With this in mind I am going …