Following are a number of testimonials that offer feedback
from male-identified survivors who have attended 3-day Weekend of
Recovery as well as single-day Day of Recovery events.
Overly nearly thirty years of therapy and 12-step recovery I’ve been in lots of rooms with lots of people struggling to find the next right thing. In all that time I have never felt the sense of belonging I felt this weekend. I am used to being the only guy in the room, or one of only a few, in spaces where survivors gather.
I was incidentally aware that some men were straight, gay, bi; some fathers, some without children; some cis, some trans; some white-collar workers, some blue-collar, some service-industry, some students, some retired; some gruff and butch in their gender performance, some femme; some never partnered, some partnered for years, some serially partnered and divorced.
And in this odd melting pot of men I found that there is power in a shared story. Whether or not the details line up among individual stories, there is a shared experience around being a man and surviving childhood sexual assault/abuse that made the weekend powerful in a way I wasn’t expecting. There’s something dramatically healing about standing in a circle with 30 or so guys, telling a piece of my story, and looking around the room and knowing that my fellow men understand, some with sympathetic tears, some with the understated “guy head nod”, some with hand on heart. I am not often part of a Brotherhood, this weekend I became aware of the healing network of men like me (1500 men have been through recovery weekends over the past years).I am grateful for my brothers. –Alta 1 WOR
remember the day like it was yesterday. I signed up for this retreat on a
leap of faith and had to just do it or I knew I would procrastinate and
continue to put it off. I signed up for the WOR 1 in Alta in the end of
Sept first of Oct of 2016. I was scared out of my wits. I remember
sitting in my car at Alta Lodge trying to get the courage to go in and just
register. I knew though that if I registered that I wouldn't be able to
back out. I entered Alta Lodge and immediately had negative self talk
kick in as I was working to get my room. The gentlemen that was helping
me was kind and considerate . . . . READ MORE
Days & Weekends of Recovery can (and will) become essential and habit-forming because I can finally be with people who ‘get’ what I experienced and suffered because they, truly, have been through the wringer and come out the other side, just like me. You made me proud of myself! That, in and of itself, is a precious gift. –Toronto DOR (2014)
Amazing! One has to be there to experience it! Definitely helped me grow! DOR brought me to a better place than I was before. I wish MaleSurvivor had of been available at the time I was victimized. But, nonetheless, it is here now, and has been for some time now. –Toronto DOR (2014)
My story is common among survivors, the pedophile who gained my trust only to betray it was a priest. He left me broken and for many years I operated far below my potential, sought comfort in alcohol, lost friends, 2 wives and more jobs than I can count.Then came group and for years I shrugged off suggestions of a Weekend of Recovery. The idea of it just felt uncomfortable, then as time went on I didn't believe I needed anything beyond group.
Extremely powerful and moving. I don’t think at the point in my recovery I was at that I could have handled a whole weekend. The one day intro was perfect and left me deeply moved. –Toronto DOR
Was exactly what I needed at this space and time in my life. –Alta Advanced WOR
Enlightening, affirming, safe, caring community. –Alta Advanced WOR
WOR was a heart rending experience that was beautiful to witness.
Thanks to all organizers and facilitators. You are doing a mighty work. –Alta Advanced WOR
Each and everyone of the facilitators were invaluable! –Toronto DOR
It was a great experience! It was amazing actually. I chuckled at the end in my small group and asked, "Are you sure this is for abuse survivors? Because man... I got so much out of this weekend!" They chuckled back and agreed that so much of it is applicable on many levels. I find that I am really missing that small circle of support. I will definitely keep in touch. - Hope Springs Level 1 WOR
We had things in common that I wished we didn't, unspoken things we understood about one another. Over time, I did believe that if I worked hard, I could find a way to live a life where my past did not consume me. In our smaller assemblies, we would share our stories with the understanding that we, as individual men, could indeed heal. - WOR Alumnus
A lifeline in time when I really needed one to validate a lot of things when I was a kid really were that messed up & there really are folks who understand & an entire brotherhood of others navigating their own healing paths. I've become more mindful & grateful for the path & on the path as I stand with others who trod with open hearts, reframing much, all while seeking healthy love, peace, & balance while doing no harm.